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Many girls dump their boyfriends and don’t give any real reason or motive for their actions. They get the “urge to purge” and drop their partner without him doing anything

to her. Sometimes they want to get back together right away, but other times, they move on leaving you to hold the bag. This post will discuss how to get over your ex

girl.

First of all, you should understand that you are not alone, you’re not the first and you won’t be the last to get dumped. Most men are more scared being dumped by a

serious lover than being rejected in the early stages of dating. This is because the bonds men form with the women they are dating are important to them. Sometimes it

seems that the men see them as more important than women do, despite the fact that everywhere you look, advice is aimed at women in relationships.

To get over your ex girl, you need to stop adoring her, as much as you love her and as much as it hurts right now. Don’t put her up on a pedestal like some kind of Greek

Goddess. She has feet of clay which she exposed by dumping you when you did nothing wrong, the sooner you realize this the better your life will be.

Don’t linger on those past memories of her. Put away the photos and momentos in your home that remind you of her, don’t throw them away just in case you do get back

together in the future. If you have some of her “stuff” give it back to her.

If you have shared finances, sort them out so you can move on. This includes both joint banking accounts and settling debts you owe each other. One thing which is sure to make things go on and on, is if you have financial disputes with your ex girlfriend.

Don’t allow her to invade your mind, remembering when you were together. She is part of the past and you have to live in the present and the future. Read a book, watch TV, go out with friends, do what ever it takes to clear her out of your head.

Close out all contact with your ex. Don’t call her “just to chat” or get into idle conversation, or allow her to continue to email or text you. Instead, tell her that she called it quits and you want to start a new life without her in it so she should move on and let you do the same.

This may make her want to pursue you even harder. Women are crazy that way. They push and try harder for the things in life which they can’t have. If you are open to restarting the relationship, you can allow this communication to go on – But! make sure that everything is on YOUR terms. But, if you want to start the healing process, she needs to be cut out of your life completely and as quickly as possible.

Don’t be afraid to express your feelings, anyone who tells you any differently has never been through a breakup with someone they were in love with. Sometimes writing in a journal or writing music is sufficient. Other times, you’ll need a shoulder to lean on. If the situation is severe, consider getting short term counseling, there is nothing embarrassing about this and it may help you to get over things quickly.

Finally, don’t sit around the house alone, feeling sorry for yourself. Get back into the game. While you may not be ready to start dating again, you should go to the gym, play basketball with your buddies and go to a bar from time to time. Don’t stick around the house because you are too sad to go out.

If you have the opportunity to go out on a casual date, take advantage of it. Show the girl a good time, even if you’re not really that in to her, but remember to leave your ex out of all conversations (and your head). You will be more ready for a real relationship if you’ve kept up your dating skills.

That is how to get over your ex girl.

There are not many things in life which are more painful than having your heart broken.

Both men and women experience the pain of breaking up. Sometimes it may have been you who called it off and other times it may have been your ex, in either case, there is obvious pain on both sides. And, there are also times when the break up happened for good reasons – while other times it seemed to vanish into oblivion for no reason at all. These can be (and usually are) the most painful of all.

If you don’t start getting over the break up though, there could be some serious consequences. Don’t fall into the trap of lingering over a lost love or pining for your ex. The worst trap of all is to start to write a “victim story” that makes you the protagonist in a tale of love gone bad.

First of all, you need to realize that if you don’t get over your ex quickly, it will have a detrimental effect on any future relationship you might have.

Second, you need to realize that you can’t run away from it, medicate it, or suppress it. As difficult as it may sound, and as has as it will feel, you have to face the pain head on and deal with it.

Unfortunately, there’s no way out of a broken heart. There’s only a way through, so don’t even attempt to go around it either. Accept that there is going to be pain. Use the time during this period to understand the hurt and don’t try to supress it in any way. Here are just a few ways to deal with this (there are lots more and it depends on the individual) write in a journal, get counseling, talk to close friends, or pour your heart out in song. There are no quick solutions to getting over break up.

Next, as crazy as this may sound to you right now, you need to examine whether there is anything in your past that would have lead to your relationship break up. For instance, did the abuse in your childhood cause you to be an abuser in this relationship? This is just and example: Take note of those things because they will help you foster healthier relationships in the future. You would be surprised at how many events in our past contribute in shaping the person we are today.

Don’t make yourself out as the victim of the relationship either. You need to take responsibility for your actions. While your ex may have been the one “at Fault” and the immediate cause of the break up, the truth is that the underlying circumstances were caused by both of you. This is something which you also need to come to terms with so that you can be a better, more understanding person in your next relationship.

By dumping your “victim story” you will become a healthier, more attractive partner for a future girlfriend. You’ll begin to see that your “victim story” was composed of beliefs, attitudes and thoughts that color your perceptions about everything. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Hanging onto the idea that you were the victim will taint any future relationships.

When you handle your broken heart badly, you feed your pain. You’ll never get over break up.

But, when you can handle your emotions with the ultimate goal of letting them go, you enable healing. There is no time frame on the healing process but you will know in yourself when you feel happier.

Getting over a broken heart takes work. Don’t underestimate the factors which go into curing your heartbreak.

You’ve just lost a person who was extremely important to your life and in truth, was probably an extension of you. But, use this time for growth as well as healing and you will become a stronger person and have better relationships in the future. That is how you really go about getting over break up.

Did your girlfriend break up with you? You are not the first guy to go through this and you will not be the last. The fact is, girls initiate three quarters of the break ups whilst guys

only dump the girl in one quarter of these situations. Therefore, guys have to deal with being dumped far more often than girls do, but these statistics don’t make it any easier on the men.

One thing which makes the problem worse is that men are supposed to deal with these break ups without showing their true emaotions. meanwhile women are allowed to dissect every part of

their relationship, while the men are expected to roll with the punches.

But this doesn’t mean that men don’t have emotions, on the contrary hey hurt when women dump them. A girlfriend break up is quite painful, if you’re going through a breakup right now – you

will know exactly what I mean.

First of all, men tend to place more value on stable relationships than women do. While a man might be interested in a fling with a woman who is not his girlfriend, what he really wants is

someone who will be there in good times and bad. This is why men take a breakup so hard.

But, once your girlfriend has dumped you, and you’ve decided that it really is over it’s important to figure out how to pick up the pieces and go on with your life.

First of all, you need to be able to express yourself. Girls can do this by writing poetry or talking about the relationship endlessly with their friends. Men often don’t feel

comfortable with these options, although I have known guys who have done both of these things in the past, so don’t rule them out. But, if you play the guitar, piano or any other musical instrument, try writing some music that allows you to express your feelings. Many of the greatest songs ever recorded are about the pain of breaking up.

Next, you need to clear out your place of all of the things that remind you of her, this may sound drastic and final but it shortens the period of pain by quite a lot. If she has clothes at your house, give them back along with any CD’s DVD’s etc. And, if she’s given you any gifts that you want to keep, box them up for the time being until you can look at them without returning to an emotional state.

You will need to stop any and all communications with her, at least for the short term. If either of you owes the other money, try to settle up so that it won’t be a reason for bad blood or your name being dragged through the mud amongst your friends.

Then tell your ex that you need some space for a while, this means no calls, texts, or emails. Stay off each other’s myspace and facebook pages. In time (the amount of time varies from person to person), you may be able to be friends again, but right now you both need to give each other the space to heal.

Then, you need to get out of the house. Make a point of going out with your friends, meeting new people, going to the movies etc: the more active your brain is, the quicker the healing process will be.

Then, start to get back into the dating scene once again (again, the time scale for this varies from person to person). At first, you can have casual dates that may not lead to anything.  But, over time, you will meet someone you really care about. And, at that point, you will know that you have some closure about the old relationship. You won’t be worried about the old girlfriend break up any more.

One last point here – don’t hold on to any baggage when you go in to your next relationship or you may find yourself comparing your new lover to your old one, which is not a good start.